Quit nights

At night, I sit in my kitchen with a cup of herbal tea and work on my goals. In the past year, I found a new job which no longer had a free gym to workout in during lunch. Working out is one of my main anchors. He helps ground me and keeps me sane. I decided I’d have to commit to working out in the morning before work which is something I had failed to achieve consistency multiple times.

I’m happy to say that this experiment of working out in the morning has been going surprisingly well. I haven’t missed a workout since I started this new plan on January 2nd. Though I did have to change almost every other part of my morning routine. I’ve found that I don’t really have much time for anything else in the morning if I hope to complete a solid workout before I have to leave for work.

The other anchor in my life is writing. For the past few months, I’ve struggled to find the consistency of completing my morning pages before my workout. Today, I’ve decided I’m going to quit trying to pack too much in my mornings. I’m going to solely focus on getting my workout complete and getting to work at a reasonable time. Instead of morning pages, I’m going to use nightly pages as the first step in my nightly routine before I write my nightly blog post.

During the past few weeks, my nightly work sessions have really helped me to accomplish much more work than if I was still trying to pack everything into my morning. I’m watching a little less TV but I don’t feel like I’m sacrificing much. My typical nightly routine is to get to work after my kids go to bed which is around 8:30 and then work on my goals until 11 or 12. By completing the habit, I’m able to get between 12 1/2 to 17 1/2 hours of work accomplished each week, which is over double the amount of work I was accomplishing.

Find your quiet place to work at night. You might get much more accomplished than you thought possible.

Following passion

“The Most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children. – Jim Henson

I’m thinking about passion. I’m thinking about what I really want to do with my life. There are so many competing factors. I could easily create a list of all the things I should do for someone else.

I can’t worry about those things. I need to focus keenly on the diriving force in my life. What not only makes me happy but what really drives me to produce my best work. That’s what I’m looking for in my life. I won’t take any shortcuts. I’ve already tried that path and it wasn’t pretty. I was miserable and making the peopole around me visible.

Fin the anchors in my life and stick with them.


Read life changing books

Read life changing books

That’s my goal going forward. For the rest of the year, I’m going start reading all the books I always talked about reading. I’m not going to read what I think I should read. The rest of this year is about reading what I need to read.

I’m starting with, Walden, by Thoreau. A book I’ve talked about reading for years. I’ve tried and failed multiple times. This is the year I do it.

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Add a skill

Add a skill

Skills are tangible. Skills are real. You can show them to people. You can describe them.

Figure out what you want to learn. Then go practice it every day until you know it. While you’re practicing tell people about what you’re doing. That has two benefits: It will help the person you’re telling and it will also reinforce the skill in your mind.

Ask yourself this question tonight before you go to bed, “What do you want to learn? Then create a plan of how you’re going to achieve that goal. The only thing left to do is to get to work.

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Five Years

Five Years

Yesterday, was the five year anniversary of my Father’s death. Anyone who’s read my prior blog posts or heard my speeches know this was a life changing event for me. It changed my outlook on life and what I needed to accomplish.

Since then I’ve earned a graduate degree, changed jobs, learned to code, ran a marathon, and I’m writing and speaking more than ever. It’s been quite a change. Though there is still much more to do.

Yesterday was still a sad day. When I was writing my morning pages I was getting a little emotional thinking about my father. It was mostly about how much he would have loved my kids. He would have been a great grandfather. That’s what gets to me. A lot of regret for the things we could have done but didn’t do. Though it’s hard to be too sad. These past five years have also been some of the best years of my life. I’ve been working hard to be the best version of myself. I have a woman I love, healthy kids, I’m in the best shape of my life, I’m reading more than ever, and learning new things.

In the end, I still miss my father like it’s the first anniversary. The only way I know to honor him is by continuing to work hard in everything I choose to accomplish and to be the best father I can be to my kids.

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One of the most important skills I’ve discovered is the skill of learning to ask good questions. It doesn’t matter your position. If your able to ask good questions then you’ll stick because the ability to ask good questions is a necessity to getting important work accomplished.

Never be afraid to question something. A good question is something that should never be frowned upon. If your organization, or boss, doesn’t appreciate good questions then you should seriously think about finding someplace that does care. 

Asking good questions are not only how you learn but they also help the people around you by clarifying something for everyone in the room. Typically, if you feel the need to ask a question then the chances are that someone else in the room also wanted to ask the question but were too afraid to ask. Never be afraid to ask. 

Learn how to ask good questions. It will be one of the best career decisions you’ll ever make.

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