Following passion

“The Most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children. – Jim Henson

I’m thinking about passion. I’m thinking about what I really want to do with my life. There are so many competing factors. I could easily create a list of all the things I should do for someone else.

I can’t worry about those things. I need to focus keenly on the diriving force in my life. What not only makes me happy but what really drives me to produce my best work. That’s what I’m looking for in my life. I won’t take any shortcuts. I’ve already tried that path and it wasn’t pretty. I was miserable and making the peopole around me visible.

Fin the anchors in my life and stick with them.

 

Read life changing books

Read life changing books

That’s my goal going forward. For the rest of the year, I’m going start reading all the books I always talked about reading. I’m not going to read what I think I should read. The rest of this year is about reading what I need to read.

I’m starting with, Walden, by Thoreau. A book I’ve talked about reading for years. I’ve tried and failed multiple times. This is the year I do it.

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Add a skill

Add a skill

Skills are tangible. Skills are real. You can show them to people. You can describe them.

Figure out what you want to learn. Then go practice it every day until you know it. While you’re practicing tell people about what you’re doing. That has two benefits: It will help the person you’re telling and it will also reinforce the skill in your mind.

Ask yourself this question tonight before you go to bed, “What do you want to learn? Then create a plan of how you’re going to achieve that goal. The only thing left to do is to get to work.

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Five Years

Five Years

Yesterday, was the five year anniversary of my Father’s death. Anyone who’s read my prior blog posts or heard my speeches know this was a life changing event for me. It changed my outlook on life and what I needed to accomplish.

Since then I’ve earned a graduate degree, changed jobs, learned to code, ran a marathon, and I’m writing and speaking more than ever. It’s been quite a change. Though there is still much more to do.

Yesterday was still a sad day. When I was writing my morning pages I was getting a little emotional thinking about my father. It was mostly about how much he would have loved my kids. He would have been a great grandfather. That’s what gets to me. A lot of regret for the things we could have done but didn’t do. Though it’s hard to be too sad. These past five years have also been some of the best years of my life. I’ve been working hard to be the best version of myself. I have a woman I love, healthy kids, I’m in the best shape of my life, I’m reading more than ever, and learning new things.

In the end, I still miss my father like it’s the first anniversary. The only way I know to honor him is by continuing to work hard in everything I choose to accomplish and to be the best father I can be to my kids.

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Questions

Questions

One of the most important skills I’ve discovered is the skill of learning to ask good questions. It doesn’t matter your position. If your able to ask good questions then you’ll stick because the ability to ask good questions is a necessity to getting important work accomplished.

Never be afraid to question something. A good question is something that should never be frowned upon. If your organization, or boss, doesn’t appreciate good questions then you should seriously think about finding someplace that does care. 

Asking good questions are not only how you learn but they also help the people around you by clarifying something for everyone in the room. Typically, if you feel the need to ask a question then the chances are that someone else in the room also wanted to ask the question but were too afraid to ask. Never be afraid to ask. 

Learn how to ask good questions. It will be one of the best career decisions you’ll ever make.

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Throw it out

Throw it out

I think a lot of the problems in our world  are due to the walled gardens we’ve built for ourselves by only linking to the people who agree with us. That’s dangerous, and in most cases, both sides get something right and wrong.

How about we throw out the wrong on both sides and make this world better?

As always, It’s easier said than done.

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Make me feel

I want to experience things that will make me laugh, make me cry, make me happy, make me scared, make me nervous, make me sad, and make me angry.

I want to read, write, listen, watch, and talk about things that give me the whole range of emotions. I want to stretch myself. I want to cringe. I want to stare in awe. I want to fall in love. I want to get angry. I want to cry.

I don’t want to stay in my safe and sound bubble being ignorant to what is happening outside of my four walls. It’s okay to agree with people but if you find yourself never disagreeing with anything, or anyone, your reading, writing, listening, or watching then you need to find some new resources.

Go stretch your emotions. Go get a second opinion.