What do you do?

When life knocks you down, what do you do?

When it kicks you when your down, what do you do?

When your journey brings you to brick wall, what do you do?

When you’re given bad news, what do you do?

When you’re turned down, what do you do?

When you figure out you’re going in the wrong direction, what do you do?

When you feel like you’re dying, what do you do?

When you’ve lost hope, what do you do?

When you love leaves, what do you do?

What you do in these situations is one of the biggest determinant in how your life turns out. You’ll never have enough information. You’ll never have all the right answers. You need to trust your gut and move forward.

Following passion

“The Most sophisticated people I know – inside they are all children. – Jim Henson

I’m thinking about passion. I’m thinking about what I really want to do with my life. There are so many competing factors. I could easily create a list of all the things I should do for someone else.

I can’t worry about those things. I need to focus keenly on the diriving force in my life. What not only makes me happy but what really drives me to produce my best work. That’s what I’m looking for in my life. I won’t take any shortcuts. I’ve already tried that path and it wasn’t pretty. I was miserable and making the peopole around me visible.

Fin the anchors in my life and stick with them.

 

Five Years

Five Years

Yesterday, was the five year anniversary of my Father’s death. Anyone who’s read my prior blog posts or heard my speeches know this was a life changing event for me. It changed my outlook on life and what I needed to accomplish.

Since then I’ve earned a graduate degree, changed jobs, learned to code, ran a marathon, and I’m writing and speaking more than ever. It’s been quite a change. Though there is still much more to do.

Yesterday was still a sad day. When I was writing my morning pages I was getting a little emotional thinking about my father. It was mostly about how much he would have loved my kids. He would have been a great grandfather. That’s what gets to me. A lot of regret for the things we could have done but didn’t do. Though it’s hard to be too sad. These past five years have also been some of the best years of my life. I’ve been working hard to be the best version of myself. I have a woman I love, healthy kids, I’m in the best shape of my life, I’m reading more than ever, and learning new things.

In the end, I still miss my father like it’s the first anniversary. The only way I know to honor him is by continuing to work hard in everything I choose to accomplish and to be the best father I can be to my kids.

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Throw it out

Throw it out

I think a lot of the problems in our world  are due to the walled gardens we’ve built for ourselves by only linking to the people who agree with us. That’s dangerous, and in most cases, both sides get something right and wrong.

How about we throw out the wrong on both sides and make this world better?

As always, It’s easier said than done.

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Don’t be afraid of the unknown

What are you afraid of? Why aren’t you applying, writing, submitting, meeting, running, asking, questioning, or taking what you want in life?

The question you need to ask yourself is, “What is the worst that can happen by doing ______?” Then answer that question. Most of the time the likely answer isn’t the end of the world scenario you first thought it would be. If you think about it and the result would be the end of the world, then please don’t do it. Usually we don’t even make it past the original question, or delemia. Many of us only think about the likely rejection. We don’t think about what if we got accepted, or what happens after the initial rejection.

A few days ago, I was filling out my Five Minute Journal the quote of the day was perfect for this type of scenario. It was a quote from Bruce Lee, and it read,”Knowing is not enough; We must apply. Willing is not enough; We must do.” You can know what to do and be willing to do it, but those two things are not enough. You must actually apply and do them or you might as well do nothing.

More, More, More

More, More, More

I want more, more, more. Most people want more not less. More money. More house. More clothes. More power. More respect. More love. More friends. More fame. More followers.

What about less? Do you ever want less of something? Stress is the easy answer that comes to mind.

I think it depends on the type of more. I want more followers who care about my work.  Anyone with a credit card can purchase a large following. I want more love from the important people in my life. Can you try to purchase love but it doesn’t last. I want more honest friendship. Buying friendship has the same long-term effects as buying love. I want more of the things that matter. I want a higher quality version of more.

Less can be more.

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Two opposing forces

I’ve been thinking about love and hate, and why there is so much hate in the world.

My theory: 

Hate is easy. It requires almost no effort. You don’t need a justification to hate anyone. Someone either does something to you, or you simply don’t like someone.

Love is different. Love is not easy. It requires effort. You need a justification. You need to experience love. Go out and meet people. You have to care for others. 

What would this world, or even our own lives, be like if we all chose to make more of an effort to love one another. The best reason I can give is that hate doesn’t solve anything. There isn’t one conflict, relationship, or life that was saved by hate. Only love can save those things.

I’m thinking about how I can love and appreciate the important people in my life. I want spend less time hating and more time loving.