You think your important. You think your special. You think there is some plan out there especially for you. I think your in denial. 

I know many people might not agree with with this comment. I agree with Tyler Durden’s point of view from the movie, Fight Club, “You are not a perfect unique snowflake.” There are flaws in all of us. 

This life is not predestined for any of us. It’s up to you to decide on how you want your life to turn out. Life is about the decisions you make. Most of the time it’s nobody else’s fault but your own. There are things that happen out of your control such as when my father passed away. In the larger scheme of things the heartache and the joy is what creates the person we are today. 

When difficult things happen in your life your faced with two decisions:

  1. You can run and hide. A lot people close off the world around them with isolation, fear, alcohol, or drugs.
  2. You can take those difficult times and help them make you a stronger person. The worse the circumstance the stronger you can be tomorrow. Think about it. If you can live through it, imagine what you can do once you are out of those circumstances.

It’s easy to look at life and it’s choices, and be scared about the possible outcomes. This is a major mistake. Focus on those events in your life that make you stronger. Gather that strength. Go out into the world with confidence and the strength you’ve earned to face your fears and take control of your own life.

As William Ernest Henley said in his peom, Invictus: Be the captain of your soul.

Out of the night that covers me,

Black as the pit from pole to pole,

I thank whatever gods may be

For my unconquerable soul.
In the fell clutch of circumstance

I have not winced nor cried aloud.

Under the bludgeonings of chance

My head is bloody, but unbowed.
Beyond this place of wrath and tears

Looms but the Horror of the shade,

And yet the menace of the years

Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.
It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll,

I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.

William Ernest Henley, Invictus

The feature image is a portrait of William Ernest Henley by Leslie Ward published in Vanity Fair 26 November 1892.