Last Friday, my wife went out with some friends and I stayed home to watch the kids. After putting the kids to bed, I sat on the couch and did something I hadn’t done in sometime, some “me time.” I had a beer, read some of my current book (The Big Short by Michael Lewis), and even re-watched the season finale of Game of Thrones. It felt good to unwind. The past week, I was feeling a little burned out. All the speeches, blog posts, and trying to keep up with all of my other goals was beginning to wear on me. I needed to relax. A few years ago, I would have thought this was being lazy and felt guilty about wasting sometime I could have spent accomplishing another task. Over the past few years, I worked hard on self improvement and awareness. I’ve listened to everything Brene Brown has written, and it’s helped me to figure out that Play is more important and then work. I try to make time for it, but it’s easier said than done.

To be fair, I think I get more time to myself than my wife.  We’re both working hard to achieve all of our to-dos.  We take care of the kids, give them attention, we spend time with our extended family on the weekends, we have an almost endless list of places to go and people to see, and we still need to get all the basic things done around the house like cooking, cleaning, laundry, and yard work.  I know what we have to do is no more than your average parent.  It’s simply what’s expected of all of us.  Still, everyone needs time to breakaway and have some time for themselves.  It’s easy to forget that in our society.

I’m trying to figure out ways to give my wife and I more time to ourselves that allows us to recharge, and puts us both in the best possible position to succeed in what we want to accomplish.