When ever you hear people talk about Valentine’s Day it’s always about whether they have a valentine, which could be a date, a committed relationship, or spouse. This gives a lot of people tremendous happiness or a great amount of sadness.  I think the people without a valentine should view this day more than either having or not having a relationship.  They should think about exposing their vulnerabilities to someone else.

Why not make this day about someone you love?

It doesn’t have to be someone you want to marry.  Simply someone in your life who’s meant a lot to you.

Who haven’t you talked, written, or called in a long time?

Maybe your mother, father, sibling, aunt, uncle, cousin, or friend.  Call them, write them a letter, or send a simple text message telling them what they have meant to you and why you love them.

What’s the worst thing that can happen?

You could end up having a deeper, more meaningful relationship with that person.  Instead of trying to find some random person to go to dinner, you could have changed and strengthen a relationship with one important person in your life.  Imagine if you did this every year.

What would your life look like in a few years?

It would be a lot more meaningful than it is today.

Another option

If you’re not up to having a deeper moment with someone you love, then why not go try something new today.  Is there a class you’ve always wanted to take, running group you’ve wanted to join, or place you wanted to visit? Then go check it out and while you’re there try initiating a conversation with at least one person.  Afraid? Ask yourself, make a list, or do whatever you do to make a decision about what could be the most likely result.  This is probably the reason: They’ll shoot you down. What’s the big deal? That’s going to happen a lot in life, and not just in your relationships, so you might as well get used to it. Take the opportunity to connect with someone because otherwise you’re actually taking a bigger risk.

In most of the situations where I exposed myself to vulnerability, I asked one question: “Is the short term chance of embarrassing myself worth the lifetime of wondering if I could have achieved the thing I’m considering.”

What is it worth to you?

Go expose your vulnerabilities today.