I just thought there would be more.

Mom: You know what I’m realising? My life is just going to go. Like that. This series of milestones. Getting married. Having kids. Getting divorced. The time that we thought you were dyslexic. When I taught you how to ride a bike. Getting divorced… again. Getting my masters degree. Finally getting the job I wanted. Sending Samantha off to college. Sending you off to college. You know what’s next? Huh? It’s my fucking funeral! Just go, and leave my picture!

Mason: Aren’t you jumping ahead by, like, 40 years or something?

Mom: I just thought there would be more.

– Quotes from Boyhood

This is an exchange, in the Academy Award nominated movie “Boyhood,” between the main character, Mason, and his mother.  She’s talking about her life and it struck me.  I’ve written about life being a series of events before: births, deaths, graduations, marriages, divorces, diseases, and jobs.  It can lead a lot of people to think there has to be more to life than a series of random events.

Life can be random but there are also things you can control.  Is it worth worrying about the things you can’t?  It’s not, instead realize what you can control and what you need to do to control it.

There are two ways to live this life: either let life happen or work to shape it.  There are many people doing one or the other.  What will you do?