Being Enough

Leading an ordinary life is now considered a meaningless life.

– Brene Brown

I’ve been listening to Brene Brown’s audiobook, “The Art of Vulnerability.” One of the main points she touches on is the idea of being enough.  Feeling like I’m enough.  I think a lot of people can relate to the above quote. I know I can.  I constantly think about whether I’m doing enough with my life.  What am I going to do?  How am I going to do it?  What will my family, friends, and others think about the things I achieved?  Will it be enough to consider my life full.

I’m torn in half because personally I have a great personal life.  I have a great family, extended family, and friends but professional I’m still working hard to “make something of myself.” I’m not a slacker. I have a bachelors and masters degree.  I’ve held three jobs at large corporations.  My skill set is in demand.  But as the above quote states, my professional life is pretty ordinary and it feels like it’s not enough.

There is another line from Brene’s audiobook that I think is great.  She quotes another researcher who says, “Enough, is the last thing we think about before we go to bed and the first thing we think about when we wake up in the morning.”  Before bed, I think about all the things I didn’t accomplish: “I didn’t get enough done.” In the morning, I think I didn’t get enough sleep.

I’ve been trying to work on this for almost two years. I try to set priorities (Top 3, Pick Four) and nightly routines but I still struggle with this feeling. It’s not easy to shake but I’m getting better at it.

Focusing on my priorities help.  I try to think about my day as a few essential daily tasks that I need to accomplish to satisfy this feeling. The idea for my own daily tasks came from the blog post by Amber Rae.

  1. Write
  2. Read
  3. Move (&Sweat)
  4. Eat Well
  5. Express Gratitude
  6. Pray/Meditate
  7. Get Outside
  8. Top 3 or Pick 4 goals